What Does Attachment Theory have to do with Coaching? Part 2: Safe Haven

Last week, I gave a nutshell explanation on attachment theory and discussed the first concept – secure base – that is a critical aspect of the coaching relationship.

Today, I’m discussing the second concept – safe haven.

The concept of a safe haven refers to the idea that individuals need a secure emotional base to turn to when they are feeling distressed or overwhelmed. A safe haven can be a person, place, or activity that provides comfort, reassurance, and a sense of security.

When a person has a safe haven, they feel supported in their emotions and can learn to value and make sense of them. They develop a connection to themselves and to others, which allows them to feel safe enough to be vulnerable and create intimacy in their relationships.

This sense of safety and security enables individuals to understand and care for themselves, which in turn allows them to form meaningful connections with others. They feel a sense of belonging both to themselves and to those around them, which enhances their overall sense of well-being and fulfillment.

In summary, having a safe haven is essential for emotional regulation and the development of healthy relationships. It allows individuals to be authentic and vulnerable, which leads to deeper connections and a greater sense of belonging.

Attachment theory helps us give voice to and understand the importance of the coaching relationship. A safe haven to explore, to grow, to develop, and to learn how to create this environment in your workspace.