What Does Attachment Theory have to do with Coaching? Part 1: Secure Base

I often speak about practices you can try and other juicy topics but for the next three weeks, I’m focusing on my profession, coaching, itself.  Folks familiar with attachment theory may already know the connection. In brief, attachment theory speaks to how one relates to the world and establishes one’s identity based on how safe and secure you feel. How safe and secure you feel comes from how safe and secure you felt with your parent or primary caregiver. That is a nutshell explanation.

But what does this have to do with coaching?

Two important concepts stem from attachment theory that we’ll explore in relation to coaching – 1. secure base and 2. safe haven.

The secure base concept suggests that a secure emotional attachment to another can provide a foundation for psychological development and growth. When a person feels secure, they feel safe to explore and take risks, knowing that they have a reliable and supportive base to return to if things don't go well.

This sense of security allows individuals to expand their self-awareness and self-expression, as well as develop their personal identity. They feel more confident in their ability to handle challenges and cope with adversity and are more likely to take on new experiences and learn from them.

Overall, a secure base provides a sense of safety and stability that enables individuals to flourish and reach their full potential, professionally, personally, and socially.

Attachment theory helps us give voice to and understand the importance of the coaching relationship.

If you let this concept sink in, you can also understand how relevant it is for you, as a leader, to create this environment for your staff. Once you experience it for yourself in the coaching relationship, it is easier to know how to create the environment in your workspace.